Balancing Sex Work and Real Life

Find a healthy balance within your life for online sex work, things that can help you include scheduling of posts and direct messages on your adult sites (where possible) and having set days for taking content where you take as much as possible and then have the rest of the week for your editing, promoting and fan interaction.

Separate your sex work life from your real life, have breaks, take days off, most importantly have set hours like any other job.

My top tip for a stress free sex work life is to always have more content than you need and always have things scheduled where possible.

Remember to always choose quality over quantity with your content, get yourself into a good routine with a healthy balance that works for you.

Know what requires your active attention at certain times and what can be done through scheduling or at any time.

Active attention:

-Social promotion (excluding sfs)

-Engaging with subs

Scheduled/any time:

-Taking content

-Editing content

-Scheduling posts/DMs (including sfs)

Focus on having dedicated time in your schedule for things requiring your active attention, the rest can be done whenever else fits your schedule.

WATERMARKING

WATERMARK everything. It is the only protection you have against someone stealing and using your content as theirs, it will happen to everyone.

DMCA takedown services do exist however the free ones with most sites aren't effective so the service requires investment in other takedown sites.

Watermarks also allow dcma sites to be able to identify and prove your content is yours, increasing the chance of a successful takedown.

Good watermarking apps I personally use are Adobe photoshop express (for watermarking and light tweaks) and pics art (photo edits, premium for video edits) just search watermark/editing apps in your app store, also look for collage apps to make headers!

Prioritise your mental and physical health and well-being, it is important, it is who you are. Look to join support networks such as groups and try and adopt healthy habits especially with a job like this.

You are never alone, don't ever feel pressured into anything you aren't comfortable with, you are always in control of the situation, people will support you if you need them too. The block button exists, report them to other sex workers if necessary (I take anonymous reports)

One thing (I've noticed anyways) is sitting down, A LOT, online sex work is exactly that, online, I try and remind myself to take breaks, get up, walk around ect, I suggest changing position often or take a walk when you have the chance

It's easy to lose track of time and forget important things, remind yourself to eat, stay hydrated, get enough sleep and most importantly TAKE BREAKS.

Good hydration leads to good fluid production and therefore good cumshots.

Fluids are typically lost during shooting through sweat or other means.

Good hydration can have benefits such as increased energy and healthy skin.

Online Sex work involves looking at screens A LOT, most phones have a setting for eye comfort or night mode that creates an orange tinge, this is supposed to reduce the blue light exposure, there are also glasses that can produce this effect. Benefits of reduced blue light include improved sleep/sleeping pattern and often helps with headaches in some cases, be aware of how much time you spend on electronics and take a significant break before sleeping.

You're going to have purchased lingerie remember to wash it on a cool/cold wash and air dry, invest in a delicates bag or some other mesh bag for protection, I like to store mine in the bags they came in when clean.

Shaving tips I rarely see mentioned:

Conditioner does work great but shave balm/butter is better and leaves you much smoother and hydrated.

Wait long enough between shaving and trim if it's too long.

Avoid tight clothes for prolonged periods especially if its a fresh shave.

Things like stretching before and after you film content, especially if it's with another person, the last thing you want is to pull a muscle

Additional reminders that your vagina is the shape it is, there's no magic way to change it (without surgery), it will change shape over time, discharge is NORMAL, the majority of smells are NORMAL, periods are NORMAL, if you need to take a few days off for it then do! YOU come first, YOU are the business.

Dedicate time and space in your life for sex work, you will need time to take content, figure out when works best for you and try and take lots so you can schedule ahead, figure out what promotion groups work for your schedule. Dedicate space for your invested toys/clothes, if you can dedicate space for taking content too.

IF YOU ARE COLLABORATING GET TESTED. (and please be safe doing collaborations with the current pandemic) Have a test done beforehand and ask for one in return to remove any doubts of possible STIs. It's also important to keep your sex toys clean otherwise they could cause UTIs or other issues

You are the root of all your success, taking care of yourself matters and should be important to you, even if that means taking a day away from everything, sitting under a blanket and watching movies, everyone deserves to relax every once in a while.

Please don't ever doubt yourself or what you're capable of, if you feel your content is 'bad' its more than likely stuff that can be easily improved, better quality equipment, techniques for taking content or promoting, everyone begins small and has to learn how

You will get far as long as you stick at it, it can be discouraging, particularly when you're just starting or small, but with hard work and determination there is always potential for success, after all we're all works of art ❤️

Take time away from this for yourself, no one works a normal job 24/7 so you shouldn't either, normal jobs let you have days off so have them, you deserve them

For those of you who have periods, this is how I manage content with them. I’m not telling you to do any of these, they are things I’ve found useful when shark week messed me over:

Try and always have extra content on hand and/or scheduled ahead. It makes it easy to be consistent if you aren’t up for taking content.

Try and take content just after bathing or in the bath/shower

I have put a tampon in and hidden the string as I’m sure many have, I now prefer to use period discs (brand name flex disc) which are similar to cups but lay flat instead and can be used during penetration.